(USA TODAY) -- Jada Pinkett Smith is using Facebook as a diary/advice column, and some of her recent posts are prompting a lot of conversation.
On Sept. 19, the actress was reflective after just turning 42 and she revealed she had "many addictions" when she was younger.
"What I learned about myself is this, when I was younger I was not a good problem solver, meaning I had a very difficult time with dealing with my problems in life. I had many addictions, of several kinds, to deal with my life issues, but today, at 42, I have my wisdom, my heart and my conscience as the only tools to overcome life's inevitable obstacles. I have become a good problem solver with those tools, and I am damn proud. Thank you for all the love that was given to me for my birthday this year."
On Sept. 22, she wrote a note to a friend who had just told her she had decided to get a divorce. Pinkett Smith and hubby Will Smith, who have been married for 16 years, have been the subject of marriage-on-the-rocks rumors that started in the summer of 2011. On Facebook, the actress wrote, "For the past five years, I have been meeting with elders who have been married for 25+ years to get understanding from many perspectives as to what marriage and love is all about."
She went on to say that, "Answers to big questions need time to find lasting truth vs the truth of the moment. After this process the answer may be the same, but at least you will have the clarity to go about it all with certainty and integrity, but you may also find that spark that could save and rekindle your marriage."
On Tuesday, she continued to talk about relationships, saying, "Someone asked me the other day why do people stay with people who treat them bad? To me, the answer is simple... They stay because they don't believe they deserve to be treated better, and the moment one truly believes they deserve better... You deserve the best and never forget it:)"