YELL COUNTY, Ark. (KTHV) - Abusive relationships are difficult for many women, and even men, to overcome. But what happens when the violence is re-directed at your family?
Haley Mcham shared her experience, with the help of Women’s Own Worth, in hopes that it inspires others to get out before it’s too late. Mcham is paying it forward now with a new attitude and a new look. She's not letting the tragedy she experienced just three months ago, stop her from pursuing a purposeful life.
“I can smile now. I won't have to cover my mouth when I say hello,” said Mcham as she showed off her new set of teeth gifted by Little Rock Family Dental Care. It’s a procedure she’s always wanted.
“A light bulb will come on one day and she'll be able to tell people what she didn't know,” said Jhauan Archer, Founder of Women’s Own Worth.
Mcham’s got a new smile, with the attitude to match. Earlier this year, her boyfriend murdered her mother and daughter during a hostage situation. He also shot and killed a Yell County Deputy, Lieutenant Kevin Mainhart. Mcham was in an abusive relationship of 9 years.
“It's really hard on Brianna, my 13-year-old. She was close to my mom and her sister. The boys, they just stay busy and play their video games all the time,” said Mcham.
She has three other children. Now she's starting over with the help of a domestic violence support group and a new best friend. The inseparable pair met at Mcham’s mothers and daughters funeral. Since the incident, she and her children have started therapy. She said the process has been very beneficial and recommends all victims of abuse give it serious consideration.
“My children don't really want to talk about it at home, but they will talk to our therapist about it. And then we get to talk about it. It really has helped,” Mcham said.
Archer is proud of Mcham for not letting her circumstances define her and encourages others to do the same. “People who almost lose their lives and suffer the loss of other people due to tragedy, see things differently,” she said.
Archer was also a victim of domestic violence. They both think the stigma of abuse keeps victims from seeking the help they need because of judgment. Mcham is making it her mission to be the help so many need.
“There is help out there, there are amazing people. I once hated people, but you couldn’t tell. I love people now, I love them, everyone,” said Mcham.
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